
Choosing between joint and single life insurance can feel more complicated than it first appears, particularly when you are balancing a mortgage, children, unequal incomes or the possibility that your circumstances may change. The cheapest monthly premium is not always the best-value option, because a joint policy normally pays only once, while two single policies can potentially provide two separate payouts.
This guide explains how joint and single life insurance work for UK couples, how premiums and payouts compare, and what may happen to your cover following separation or divorce. We’ll also explore trusts, mortgage protection, unmarried couples and the practical steps that can help you avoid losing valuable cover.
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- Joint vs single life insurance at a glance
- How joint life insurance works for UK couples
- How two single life insurance policies work
- Joint vs single life insurance costs
- How payouts compare
- Which option works best for mortgage protection
- Cover for couples with children
- Cover for unmarried and cohabiting couples
- What happens after separation or divorce
- How trusts affect divorce
- Common mistakes and exclusions
- Decision checklist
- Frequently asked questions
- Final advice
Joint vs Single Life Insurance at a Glance
A joint life insurance policy covers two people under one contract and usually pays out after the first insured person dies. Two single life insurance policies cover each person separately, meaning each policy can potentially produce its own payout.
| Feature | Joint life insurance | Two single life policies |
|---|---|---|
| Number of policies | One | Two |
| Number of people covered | Two | One per policy |
| Typical number of payouts | One | Up to two |
| What normally happens after the first death | Policy ends | Surviving person’s policy continues |
| Premium | Often slightly lower than two equivalent single policies | Often slightly higher overall |
| Cover amounts | Usually the same shared sum assured | Can be different for each person |
| Policy terms | One shared term | Each person can choose a different term |
| Flexibility after separation | Frequently limited | Usually greater |
| Suitability for a shared mortgage | Often suitable | Suitable, with potentially broader protection |
| Suitability for unequal financial needs | Less flexible | More flexible |
| Medical underwriting | Both people assessed | Each applicant assessed separately |
| Potential total payout | Usually one sum assured | Potentially two sums assured |
The crucial distinction is not simply one policy versus two. It is the difference between paying for one potential claim and paying for two independent potential claims.
How Joint Life Insurance Works for UK Couples
Joint life cover insures two people under the same policy. It is commonly purchased by married couples, civil partners and cohabiting partners who share a mortgage or other long-term financial commitments.
Most UK joint term life insurance is arranged on a first-death basis. This means the insurer pays the agreed sum when the first insured person dies during the policy term, after which the policy ends and the surviving partner is no longer covered.
Example of a joint first-death policy
Suppose Daniel and Aisha take out:
- A 25-year joint policy
- £250,000 of level term cover
- A premium of £24 per month
- First-death payout terms
If Daniel dies during year 12, the insurer may pay £250,000, assuming the claim meets the policy conditions. The policy then ends, so Aisha would need to apply for new life insurance if she still required cover.
This is where a relatively cheap joint policy can create a later difficulty. Aisha would be 12 years older when reapplying, and any medical conditions developed since the original application could make replacement insurance more expensive or unavailable.
First-death versus second-death joint insurance
Most couples looking for family or mortgage protection encounter first-death joint term assurance, but some whole-of-life and estate-planning arrangements operate on a second-death basis.
| Policy basis | When it pays | Common purpose |
|---|---|---|
| Joint first death | After the first insured person dies | Mortgage repayment or family protection |
| Joint second death | After both insured people have died | Estate planning or a potential inheritance tax liability |
| Two single policies | Each policy pays when its insured person dies | Flexible family and individual protection |
Second-death policies serve a different purpose and should not be confused with ordinary joint mortgage life insurance. They are generally designed to provide money to beneficiaries after the second partner dies, rather than financially supporting the surviving partner after the first death.
What a joint policy does not usually provide
A standard joint first-death policy does not normally provide:
- Two death-benefit payments
- Continuing cover for the surviving policyholder
- Separate cover amounts for each partner
- Automatic division into two policies after divorce
- A cash-in value under an ordinary term assurance policy
- Automatic removal of an ex-partner from ownership or trust arrangements
Some insurers offer policy alteration options, separation provisions or replacement-cover facilities. These features are contract-specific, so they should be checked in the original policy conditions rather than assumed.
How Two Single Life Insurance Policies Work
With single life insurance, each partner has an individual policy covering their own life. The policies can start at the same time, but they remain legally and financially separate contracts.
For example, Daniel could have £300,000 of cover over 25 years, while Aisha could have £200,000 over 20 years. If Daniel dies first and his policy pays, Aisha’s policy can remain in force as long as its premiums continue and its term has not ended.
Why two single policies can offer more flexibility
Separate policies allow you to tailor the cover around each person’s contribution and responsibilities. This can be particularly useful when one partner earns more, one provides unpaid childcare, or your ages and health circumstances differ significantly.
You can choose different:
- Cover amounts
- Policy terms
- Insurers
- Types of life insurance
- Critical illness options
- Beneficiaries or trust arrangements
- Premium structures
- Policy owners, where ownership is arranged separately
A stay-at-home parent may need substantial cover even if they do not receive a salary. Their death could create childcare, housekeeping and working-hours costs that the surviving partner would otherwise have to fund.
Two policies can potentially pay twice
If both partners die within their respective policy terms, both single policies may pay. This remains subject to the policy conditions, truthful application disclosures and any relevant exclusions.
This does not mean the household receives an immediate double payout when the first person dies. The first policy pays following the first death, while the second policy remains available to pay later if the surviving insured person dies during their own policy term.
Joint vs Single Life Insurance Costs
A joint policy is often cheaper than buying two equivalent single policies, but the saving may be smaller than many couples expect. It is essential to compare the cost against the number of potential payouts rather than looking only at the monthly premium.
Insurers generally calculate premiums using factors such as:
- Each person’s age
- Smoking or nicotine use
- Current and previous medical conditions
- Height and weight
- Occupation
- Hazardous hobbies
- Foreign travel or residency
- Cover amount
- Policy term
- Type of cover
- Optional critical illness benefits
- Family medical history, where asked
Illustrative cost comparison
The following figures are hypothetical and are not live quotations. They demonstrate how a modest monthly saving can look over a full policy term.
| Arrangement | Illustrative monthly cost | Cost over 25 years | Maximum number of death payouts |
|---|---|---|---|
| Joint £250,000 policy | £24 | £7,200 | One |
| Single policy for partner one | £13 | £3,900 | One |
| Single policy for partner two | £12 | £3,600 | One |
| Combined cost of two singles | £25 | £7,500 | Two |
In this example, the joint policy saves only £1 per month, or £300 over 25 years. However, it provides only one potential £250,000 payout, whereas the two single policies could potentially pay a total of £500,000 if both insured people die within their policy terms.
The comparison will not always be this close. Nevertheless, it shows why consumer-focused commentators such as Martin Lewis frequently emphasise comparing the overall protection provided rather than automatically choosing the lowest headline premium.
Is joint life insurance always cheaper?
No. A joint quotation can be lower than the combined cost of two single policies, but pricing varies between insurers and applicants.
One insurer may be competitive for a joint application but less competitive for a partner with a specific medical condition. In some cases, placing each person with a different insurer can produce a better overall price or more appropriate underwriting outcome.
Why health differences matter
With joint insurance, both lives must be accepted under one contract. If one person has a significant medical condition, it may influence the joint premium, trigger an exclusion on an additional benefit or lead to the entire application being postponed or declined.
Separate applications can provide more options. The healthier partner may obtain standard terms from one insurer, while a specialist broker searches for suitable cover for the partner with more complex health needs.
The cheapest policy is not necessarily the best value
A low premium can be attractive, but value also depends on:
- Whether the cover amount is sufficient
- How long the policy lasts
- Whether premiums are guaranteed or reviewable
- Whether terminal illness benefit is included
- The definition of terminal illness
- Whether critical illness cover is included
- Available separation or alteration options
- Trust and beneficiary flexibility
- Exclusions and claim conditions
- The insurer’s service and claims support
Resources from MoneyHelper, the government-backed financial guidance service, and the Association of British Insurers can provide useful background. Martin Lewis’s broader consumer principle in resources such as The Money Diet—focus on practical value rather than marketing—also applies, although no named commentator’s general guidance should replace personalised regulated advice.
Joint vs Single Life Insurance Payouts: How Much Could Your Family Receive?
The payout difference is the strongest argument for comparing two single policies with joint cover. Under ordinary first-death joint insurance, the household receives one payout and the contract ends.
Two single policies can produce one payout after the first death and leave the survivor insured. If the survivor subsequently dies within their policy term, the second policy can make another payment to their beneficiaries or trustees.
Scenario comparison
Imagine a couple where each person has £200,000 of cover.
| Event | Joint first-death policy | Two single policies |
|---|---|---|
| Partner A dies during the term | £200,000 paid; policy ends | Partner A’s £200,000 policy may pay |
| Partner B survives for ten more years | No cover remains under the original policy | Partner B’s £200,000 policy remains active |
| Partner B then dies within the term | No second payment | Partner B’s policy may pay £200,000 |
| Potential combined payout | £200,000 | £400,000 |
The second payout could be particularly important where children remain financially dependent after the first parent dies. Without it, the family may receive money to clear the mortgage after the first death but no life cover if the surviving parent later dies.
Who receives the payout?
The recipient depends on how the policy is owned and whether it has been placed in trust. A policy on your own life that is not in trust may pay into your estate, while a policy written in trust is generally paid to the trustees for the intended beneficiaries, subject to the trust’s terms.
A joint policy’s ownership and payout mechanics must be checked carefully. The surviving policyholder may receive or control the proceeds in some arrangements, while trust ownership can direct the money differently.
Are UK life insurance payouts taxed?
Life insurance proceeds are not normally subject to income tax or capital gains tax merely because they have been paid. However, a payout entering the deceased’s estate may increase its value for inheritance tax purposes.
Placing a suitable policy in trust may keep the payout outside the estate and allow trustees to claim without waiting for probate or confirmation. Trusts have legal and tax consequences, though, and cannot always be changed later, so advice from a solicitor, financial adviser or qualified estate-planning professional may be sensible.
Joint vs Single Life Insurance for a Mortgage
Joint decreasing term assurance is commonly used alongside a repayment mortgage. The cover is designed to reduce broadly in line with the outstanding loan, assuming an interest rate specified by the policy.
If either partner dies, the policy may provide enough to repay or reduce the mortgage. This can be a cost-effective solution where clearing the shared home loan is the couple’s main objective.
When joint mortgage life insurance may be suitable
Joint cover may be reasonable where:
- Your primary goal is to clear one shared repayment mortgage
- Either partner’s death would create the same mortgage liability
- Your budget is limited
- You understand that the policy pays only once
- You do not require separate legacy payments
- The insurer provides acceptable separation options
- You have considered the survivor’s future insurability
When two single mortgage policies may be stronger
Separate policies may offer better protection where:
- You have dependent children
- Both partners require continuing life cover
- You have unequal incomes or financial responsibilities
- One partner has debts outside the mortgage
- Each person wants different beneficiaries
- You expect your circumstances could change
- One partner is older or has different health needs
- You want the possibility of two payouts
It is also possible to use different cover types. One partner might select level term insurance for family income protection, while the other chooses decreasing term cover for their share of the mortgage.
Check the mortgage calculation carefully
A decreasing policy does not track your mortgage account precisely. If your mortgage interest rate is higher than the policy’s assumed rate, or you borrow more without increasing your insurance, the payout may be insufficient to clear the balance.
You should review cover after:
- Remortgaging
- Moving home
- Extending the mortgage term
- Borrowing additional money
- Switching to interest-only repayments
- Taking a payment holiday
- Separating from your partner
- Transferring ownership of the property
Joint or Single Life Insurance for Couples With Children
For parents, the question extends beyond whether the mortgage can be repaid. You may also need to replace earnings, fund childcare, cover education costs and provide financial support until your children become independent.
Two single policies often provide broader protection because the surviving parent remains insured after the first claim. This is especially valuable if the children would face severe financial disruption following the later death of the second parent.
Do not undervalue unpaid work
A common misconception is that only the higher earner needs life insurance. In reality, a partner providing unpaid childcare, transport, household management or care for an older relative may create substantial replacement costs if they die.
When estimating cover, consider:
- The outstanding mortgage and other debts
- Childcare costs
- Lost earnings
- Funeral expenses
- School or university support
- Household bills
- Existing savings and investments
- Workplace death-in-service benefits
- The length of financial dependency
- Any maintenance obligations from a previous relationship
Employer death-in-service cover can be useful, but it is linked to employment and may end when you change jobs. It should not automatically be treated as a permanent substitute for personal life insurance.
Joint vs Single Life Insurance for Unmarried and Cohabiting Couples
Cohabiting couples do not automatically have the same inheritance rights as married couples or civil partners. The idea of a legally recognised “common-law spouse” is a persistent UK myth and can leave surviving partners financially exposed.
A partner may receive nothing under intestacy rules if the deceased dies without a valid will, although rights and claims vary across England and Wales, Scotland, and Northern Ireland. Life insurance ownership, trust arrangements and wills therefore require particular attention.
Practical protection for cohabiting couples
For those looking to protect an unmarried partner, consider:
- Making or updating a valid will
- Checking property ownership
- Reviewing mortgage liability
- Confirming who owns each insurance policy
- Considering an appropriate trust
- Keeping beneficiary details current
- Reviewing workplace death-benefit nominations
- Taking legal advice where children or previous partners are involved
A beneficiary nomination and legal policy ownership are not necessarily the same thing. Similarly, paying the monthly premium does not automatically make someone the policy owner or give them the right to change or cancel the cover.
Insurable interest
UK life insurance generally requires an insurable interest when cover is arranged. Spouses and civil partners have recognised interests in each other’s lives, while cohabitants may need to demonstrate a financial relationship or take out cover using an appropriate ownership structure.
Insurers commonly accommodate cohabiting couples with shared mortgages or financial commitments, but application and ownership requirements differ. You should describe the relationship accurately rather than assuming the process is identical to that for married applicants.
What Happens to Joint Life Insurance After Divorce?
Divorce does not usually cause a joint life insurance policy to divide automatically into two single policies. Nor should you assume that the decree or final order automatically cancels the cover, changes its owners or removes an ex-partner from a trust.
The outcome depends on the policy wording, its legal ownership, any trust, the financial settlement and what the insurer permits. Family law also differs between UK jurisdictions, so individual legal advice may be required.
Common outcomes for a joint policy after divorce
A joint policy may be:
- Kept in force with both former partners’ agreement
- Transferred to one person, if the insurer and ownership terms allow
- Altered to remove one insured person, where the contract provides this option
- Replaced with new single policies
- Cancelled by mutual instruction
- Assigned as part of a financial settlement
- Maintained to secure child maintenance or mortgage obligations
Many joint term policies cannot simply be “split” into two identical single policies. Some insurers provide a separation option allowing one or both people to obtain replacement cover without full medical underwriting, but conditions and deadlines commonly apply.
Do not cancel the joint policy before securing replacement cover
Cancelling first can be an expensive mistake. If your age, health, occupation or smoking status has changed, new insurance may cost significantly more than the original cover or may not be available on acceptable terms.
A safer order is to:
- Obtain the full policy schedule and conditions.
- Confirm the policy owners, lives assured and premium payer.
- Ask the insurer what separation options are available.
- Check whether both owners must approve changes.
- Review the divorce or financial settlement.
- Apply for replacement cover where necessary.
- Wait until the new policy is accepted and active.
- Only then amend or cancel the old policy.
Do not stop the direct debit as a substitute for resolving ownership. A missed premium can cause the policy to lapse and may remove protection for both parties.
Can one ex-partner keep a joint policy?
Possibly, but this is not automatic. The insurer may permit an assignment or ownership change, yet the original policy may still insure both lives unless its terms allow one person to be removed.
If both former partners legally own the contract, one person may be unable to make unilateral changes. The fact that one ex-partner has always paid the premiums does not necessarily give them sole control.
Why might ex-partners keep cover in place?
Maintaining life insurance can still make sense where there are:
- Dependent children
- Child-maintenance payments
- Spousal-maintenance obligations
- A jointly owned home awaiting sale
- A mortgage one person continues to pay
- Business interests
- Financial commitments created by the divorce settlement
A court order or negotiated settlement may require cover to secure maintenance or another obligation. In that situation, policy ownership, trust terms and evidence that premiums are being paid should be documented carefully.
What if your ex-partner stops paying?
If the policy lapses because premiums are not paid, the expected protection may disappear. Ordinary term life insurance usually has no cash value to recover.
Where the cover secures maintenance or another legal obligation, consider:
- Who should pay the premium
- Whether premiums should come from a controlled account
- Whether trustees should receive lapse notices
- Whether proof of payment should be supplied regularly
- Whether the financially dependent person should own the policy
- What enforcement provisions belong in the settlement
A solicitor can help translate the intended protection into an arrangement that does not depend solely on an ex-partner’s goodwill.
Life Insurance Trusts, Beneficiaries and Divorce
A trust can help direct a life insurance payout to chosen beneficiaries and may speed up payment because the proceeds often do not need to wait for probate. However, trusts can become particularly complicated after divorce.
An ex-spouse does not necessarily disappear from a life insurance trust simply because the marriage has ended. The position depends on the wording of the trust deed, whether beneficiaries are named individually or by relationship, and whether the trustees have discretion.
Questions to ask about an existing trust
Review:
- Who created the trust
- Who the current trustees are
- Who the beneficiaries are
- Whether your ex-partner is named
- Whether beneficiaries can be changed
- Whether the trust is discretionary or fixed
- Who can appoint or remove trustees
- Whether the policy can be removed from the trust
- Whether the trust was part of a divorce settlement
- Whether changing it could have tax consequences
Some trust decisions are difficult or impossible to reverse. Do not complete a new trust form, assignment or deed of variation without understanding its legal effect.
Does divorce automatically remove an ex-spouse as beneficiary?
Not reliably. Wills and inheritance rules may treat divorce in a particular way, but a life insurance policy, nomination or trust is a separate legal arrangement.
You should review all of the following individually:
- Life insurance policies
- Pension death-benefit nominations
- Workplace death-in-service benefits
- Wills
- Lasting powers of attorney
- Property ownership
- Joint accounts
- Trust deeds
Rules differ across the UK, and insurers cannot provide personal family-law advice. A solicitor is particularly important where there are children from different relationships, substantial assets or a disputed financial settlement.
Joint vs Single Life Insurance Mistakes and Pitfalls
The simplest insurance arrangements can still fail if their ownership, term or intended purpose is misunderstood. These are the most common areas to check.
Myth: A joint policy pays twice because two people are insured
Reality: Standard joint first-death insurance normally pays once and then ends. The second insured person does not retain cover under that contract.
Myth: Two single policies always cost twice as much
Reality: Two policies are often more expensive overall, but the difference can be modest. They also provide up to two payouts and greater flexibility.
Myth: Divorce automatically cancels joint insurance
Reality: The policy may remain active until it is cancelled, altered, expires or lapses. Ownership and premium obligations must be resolved separately.
Myth: The person paying owns the policy
Reality: Premium payment and legal ownership are different. Check the policy schedule and any assignment or trust documentation.
Myth: A mortgage policy always clears the mortgage
Reality: Decreasing cover may fall short if the mortgage changes or its interest rate exceeds the policy’s assumed rate. Additional borrowing can also create a gap.
Myth: Healthy couples can delay buying cover without consequences
Reality: Premiums generally rise with age, and future medical conditions can affect underwriting. Delaying may make replacement protection more expensive.
Important exclusions and claim conditions
UK policies vary, but you should check for:
- Suicide exclusions during an initial period
- Inaccurate or incomplete application disclosures
- Policy lapse following missed premiums
- Age and term limits
- Terminal illness definitions
- Critical illness definitions and severity requirements
- Excluded hazardous activities
- Residency or overseas travel restrictions
- Limitations applying to optional benefits
Insurers must assess claims according to the contract and applicable UK law and regulation. However, deliberate or reckless misrepresentation can still lead to a reduced claim or refusal, so answer every application question fully and accurately.
Joint vs Single Life Insurance Decision Checklist
Before choosing a policy, define what the money must achieve and how long the need is likely to last. This is more reliable than beginning with a target monthly premium.
Consider joint life insurance when:
- You mainly want to repay one shared mortgage
- You need a lower-cost starting point
- One payout would meet your household’s objective
- Your financial needs and policy terms are similar
- You accept that the survivor will lose cover
- You have checked the policy’s separation provisions
Consider two single policies when:
- You want the possibility of two payouts
- You have dependent children
- Each partner needs different cover
- One person has separate debts or maintenance obligations
- You want greater control after separation
- Each person wants different trust arrangements
- You are concerned about the survivor’s future insurability
- Different insurers offer better terms for each applicant
Questions to ask an insurer or adviser
- Is the joint policy first-death or second-death?
- How many payouts can the policy make?
- Can it be divided after separation?
- Is there a separation or guaranteed-insurability option?
- What deadlines apply to that option?
- Who owns the policy?
- Who receives the payout?
- Can the policy be placed in trust?
- Are premiums guaranteed?
- What happens if one owner stops paying?
- Can the sum assured or term be changed?
- Are terminal illness and waiver-of-premium benefits included?
- What medical information must be disclosed?
- Are there exclusions or postponed benefits?
If you use an adviser, check that the firm is authorised by the Financial Conduct Authority. You can verify this through the FCA Register and should be cautious of firms using pressure, unverified endorsements or promises of a universally “best” policy.
Frequently Asked Questions About Joint vs Single Life Insurance
Is joint or single life insurance better for couples?
Neither is universally better. Joint cover can be cheaper and straightforward for one shared mortgage, while two single policies usually provide more flexibility and the possibility of two payouts.
Your decision should reflect your dependants, debts, income differences, health, budget and future plans. Couples with children often have stronger reasons to consider separate cover.
Can married couples have separate life insurance?
Yes. Marriage does not require you to buy joint insurance, and each spouse can hold a separate policy.
Separate cover may be particularly useful when you have different earnings, ages, medical histories or beneficiaries.
Can unmarried couples buy joint life insurance in the UK?
Usually, yes, particularly where the couple shares a mortgage or other financial commitments. The insurer may ask about the relationship and the financial interest each person has in the other’s life.
Cohabiting couples should also review wills, property ownership and trusts because they do not automatically receive all the legal protections available to spouses or civil partners.
What happens to a joint policy after the first person dies?
A standard first-death joint policy pays the agreed benefit, subject to a valid claim, and then ends. The surviving person must apply for new cover if they still need life insurance.
This can be more expensive because the survivor will be older and their health may have changed.
Can a joint life insurance policy be split after divorce?
Not always. Some insurers provide separation options, while others may require both people to arrange new single policies.
Check the policy wording before cancelling anything. A time-limited option to replace cover could be lost if you wait too long.
Can my ex-partner cancel our joint policy?
It depends on ownership and the insurer’s procedures. Jointly owned policies commonly require instructions from both owners, but payment failure may still cause the cover to lapse.
Ask the insurer who can cancel or amend the policy and whether lapse notices can be sent to both parties.
Does a divorce settlement include life insurance?
It can. Life insurance may be considered where it supports a mortgage, child maintenance, spousal maintenance or another financial obligation.
The exact treatment depends on the circumstances and the relevant UK legal jurisdiction. A family-law solicitor should review any proposed policy assignment or ongoing insurance requirement.
Is critical illness cover affected in the same way?
A joint life and critical illness policy often pays once following the first qualifying event, which could be a covered critical illness diagnosis rather than death. Once the benefit is paid, cover for both people may end.
Definitions and survival periods vary, so compare joint and separate critical illness policies independently rather than assuming they work exactly like death-only insurance.
Should life insurance be written in trust?
A trust can speed up access to funds and may help keep the payout outside the estate for inheritance tax purposes. However, the correct arrangement depends on who should benefit and how much control you want trustees to have.
Trusts can be difficult to reverse, particularly after divorce or remarriage. Legal or regulated financial advice may therefore be worthwhile.
Should couples over 50 choose joint or separate cover?
Age does not change the underlying choice, but replacement insurance becomes more expensive as you get older. This makes the loss of cover after a joint first-death claim particularly important.
Over-50s should distinguish between medically underwritten term or whole-of-life cover and guaranteed-acceptance over-50 plans. The latter often have lower cover amounts, waiting periods for non-accidental death and a risk that total premiums could eventually exceed the payout.
Final Advice: Choosing Cover That Can Survive Life Changes
For couples focused solely on clearing a shared mortgage at the lowest reasonable cost, joint first-death life insurance can be a practical solution. However, its central limitation is clear: it usually pays once and leaves the surviving partner uninsured.
For those looking for broader family protection, two single life insurance policies often offer stronger long-term flexibility, separate ownership and up to two payouts. The premium difference may be smaller than expected, making it important to compare equivalent cover rather than assuming joint insurance provides the best value.
Before deciding, compare both arrangements using the same cover amount, term and benefits. Then check ownership, trusts, separation rights and the consequences of the first claim, because the right policy should not only look affordable today—it should continue to make sense after bereavement, illness, separation or divorce.